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Neurodiverse (ASD)  Therapy

Foundation for our work together

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”


― Maya Angelou

FIRST PRIORITY - SEEING BEAUTY IN DIFFERENCE

Our first priority is to be able to see the beauty of our differences. Neurodiversity is nature's way of building combined strength and resiliency into nature.

 

Your journey of self-discovery and understanding may require rethinking a lifetime of experiencing negative messages from society. This rethinking process must operate as the foundation of all the more tactical work that is done.

SECOND PRIORITY - BALANCE

Once this primary work is underway, a secondary goal of many of our Aspie clients is to balance the needs of the neurotypical world you live in (often the needs of one's partner, family or co-workers) with your need to stay true to yourself.

 

It is a delicate balance, one that our therapy team will help you figure out.

Plan for Change

When we work together we will review the list below and together construct a session-by-session roadmap of our work together. ​
 

  • Strengths

    • Identify your strengths and build a plan on how to leverage them in your relationship.
       

    • Make peace with your Asperger traits.
       

  • Sensory processing

    • Understand your sensory processing system.  In basic terms, your sensory processing system is how your brain detects, prioritizes, and remembers what is happening around you and inside of you.
       

    • Explore strategies to manage your sensory sensitivities so you can express them to your partner and build a management plan together.
       

    • Learn ways to recognize, decompress, and communicate with your partner when you reach sensory overload/overwhelm and enter "defense mode".
       

  • Non-Literal Thinking

    • Learning alternatives to literal thinking and deciphering non-verbal communication.
       

  • Executive Function

    • Addressing executive function issues which may exist. “Tuning out” is a typical coping strategy of an Asperger’s profile. When this happens, one's partner understandably does not feel acknowledged or listened to. We explore lots of ways to address the needs of both partners to increase connection without overwhelming either partner. More specifically, we typically work on: 

      • Planning and organization skills

      • Initiating tasks

      • Multi-tasking versus one task at a time

      • Self-monitoring

      • Completing undesirable tasks

      • Setting and communicating timetables
         

  • Partnership Mindset

    • Shifting one's worldview from a “bachelor state of mind” to one of partnership or parent.
       

    • Clearly identify differences in your primary relationship and ways to bridge the gap.
       

    • Set your relationship goals that are consistent with your values and identity
       

  • Prioritize Change

    • Identify the absolutely most important behaviors and/or traits you want to work on because they are valuable to both of you (not all of them!).
       

  • Concrete Action Plan

    • Build a plan to break goals into understandable concrete steps and a timetable for action that does not feel pressured.
       

    • Determine the best approach for each skill/goal; whether to learn by rote, by deeper understanding or by trial and error.
       

    • Have a social skills mentor / accountability partner (not your partner!)
       

    • Practice, practice, practice
       

    • Learn how to collect and accept feedback (without freaking out or feeling shame, criticism or defensiveness).
       

    • Once you've met initial goals, add a long-term maintenance plan to your roadmap.
       

    • Learn to genuinely enjoy the journey.