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Have you ever been told to stop flapping, stop rocking, stop tapping, or stop humming? I have, many times. Maybe that happened in a classroom, at the dinner table, or in a therapist's office (that was supposed to help). Here's what nobody told us back then: that movement isn't a problem. It's our nervous system doing its job. For a long time, clinical thinking has treated stimming — repetitive movements, sounds, or actions like hand-flapping, rocking, humming, or finger-flick

Why Being Treated Like a Child Is One of the Most Painful (and Least Talked About) Experiences of Being An Autistic Adult One of the things I can't stand most is when someone treats me like I'm incapable, or like I'm a child. It isn't always obvious. Sometimes it's the overly simplified language, the assumptions that I don't understand what's being discussed, or people talking about me instead of to me. Other times it's the belief that because I'm autistic, I couldn't possibl

The Highlight Reel Nobody Asked For I’m sure you’ve heard it: “Your ADHD is a superpower.” I get the reframe. I really do. But I always wonder...have those people ever sent a text at 2pm, heard nothing by 2:15, and checked their phone twelve times in the meantime?Have they ever spent the next hour constructing a full story about why there’s no response… only to get a reply that says, “Sorry, I was in a meeting. What’s up?” Everything was fine. It was always fine. Except I jus

Have you ever been told you're antisocial because you don't enjoy social gatherings? Or been described as aloof. Standoffish. Snobby. A loner. These labels are common, but they don't accurately reflect what research tells us about autism. More importantly, they often miss what's actually happening. Because many autistic people want connection. They want friendship. They want to belong. The problem isn't a lack of interest in other people. It's that social interaction can be e